Whoever Said Being Married Was Easy!?
Posted by ErnieJean on October 6, 2008
“If the family trends of recent decades are extended into the future, the result will be not only growing uncertainty within marriage, but the gradual elimination of marriage in favor of casual liaisons oriented to adult selfishness. The problem… is that children will be harmed, adults will probably be no happier, and the social order could collapse.” – Harvard sociologist Pitirim Sorokin, The American Sex Revolution.
Sorokin, in his review of the history of societies through the ages, have also found that none survived after they ceased honoring and upholding the institution of marriage between a man and a woman.”
But then again, in an effort to “preserve” and “honour” the sanctity of the marriage and family institution, does that mean the usually more dominant partner in the marriage gets to continue dictating “terms and conditions” for the weaker partner to obey submissively? “All for the sake of the marriage”? That in order to maintain peace in the family, someone will have to give up the rights to “personal space” and “individual rights”?
Bear in mind though, because the families in today’s society are still very much built on the “patriarchal structure”, wives are usually expected to obey and submit to their husbands, despite them being part of the breadwinning team. Ideologies of “Women’s Lib” flushed down the drains?
So, how does one balance that delicate line between maintaining “marital happiness” and one’s “individuality”?
I’ve been married for a good couple of years now, and believe me when I say, the struggles to find that perfect solution to the balance, is pretty much, STILL a struggle. I suppose, there’ll never be a perfect formula.
But is it worth it, one may ask. Well, while there’s no hard and fast rule to what’s right or wrong, if it involves someone you truly love and cherish, despite all the conflicts, then I’d say, it’s truly worth every heartache, especially when there are children involved. Sometimes, I suppose, “self-centredness” and “self-importance” will just have to take a back seat, huh?
By the way, just out of curiosity, ever wondered what secret lies in the successful marriage of these two?