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“Hunger makes a thief of any man” – Pearl S. Buck

Posted by barbie on April 16, 2009

Canteen helper sells her body to support family

A WOMAN who works as a canteen helper in the morning works as a prostitute at night to support her family, China Press reported.

The lady, who wished to be known only as Fatimah, 22, said she had to support her husband, who is an odd-job worker, and their one-year-old son.

“Besides that, I will have to foot my old folks’ medical bills,” she said, adding that she had been prostituting herself for more than three years in Alor Setar.

Fatimah, from Pahang, said she was forced to be a prostitute by her former boyfriend, and charged her customers RM80 each time.

“However, I am getting older and also have given birth. Now, I can only charge RM50,” she said, adding that her customers were aged between 13 and 70.

The daily reported that Fatimah’s dream was to save enough money to start a new life in three years’ time.

A good friend once mentioned about a lady she knew as a child, who was a neighbour. The poor woman was left to fend for herself and her 4 children after her husband got caught stealing milk powder for the kids and was sent to prison for a good number of years.

Being a housewife with no employable skills, she had no choice but to turn to prostitution to put food on the table and roof over their heads.

When her husband was released, instead of understanding and appreciating her sacrifice, he left her. She was also ostracised by everyone in the neighbourhood.

I may not know anyone personally who has been in that situation, but I can truly understand why those mothers did what they had to do. My mother would have done the same, in fact I would have sold off my kidneys for the same reason if I had to.  Please allow me to exaggerate and generalise to a certain extent that, if a comparison must be made,  I would say most parents love their children more than the latter love their parents.

Parental love is not something that can be described in words and it goes without saying that a mother’s love is instinctual, unconditional, and forever.

Young mothers especially, either retrenched or abandoned, are resorting to committing crime for their children’s sake.  How many of you realise that there’s been quite an increase of reports about mothers being sent to prison for stealing for their young?

What on earth is happening to this society? And what will become of the next generation, raised in an environment where only desperation, poverty and lawlessness prevails?

“The poverty of our century is unlike that of any other.  It is not, as poverty was before, the result of natural scarcity, but of a set of priorities imposed upon the rest of the world by the rich.  Consequently, the modern poor are not pitied…but written off as trash.  The twentieth-century consumer economy has produced the first culture for which a beggar is a reminder of nothing. “- John Berger

Since I can remember, all our past and present government leaders have been singing the same old tiresome tune about championing the poor and eradicating poverty and improving the social welfare services…….

And till today, we still see the same snail-pace processing of genuine cases. Till today, we still see these so-called heads of various governmental welfare departments (who are usually so well fed that they’re practically dripping with fat) dragging their feet in disbursing measly sum of welfare aid to the poor.

Ella Mae totally hit the nail on the spot when she said this…..

“That’s how our society is. We are ever so willing to raise funds for disasters thousands of miles away but when our own neighbour is in need… we don’t do anything.

This is what i believe, each one of us can make a difference in this world. We must look out for our neighbours, friends and loved ones.

I am not saying we give away big sums of money, but if we can share our food with those who are in need… we too can make some difference in this nasty world.”

13 Responses to ““Hunger makes a thief of any man” – Pearl S. Buck”

  1. I can understand why she did what she did. Heck, I would have done the same for my kids anytime. I may be a grouch but when it comes to my family, I’d go to the ends of the world for them and yes, if I had to steal to feed them, I would!

    But you’re right, we spend millions worrying about other peoples plight (not that it’s wrong, mind you) but we forget that we have loads of people in our own backyard which could do with any help they could get whatsoever. I only hope that one day somebody will wake up and take note of this.

  2. Fi-sha said

    Dearie Barbie, you said it all…and the dam of my tears just burst..how could we reprimand one who wanted to feed his hungry family? how could we…

  3. Barbie, theres a number of NGO out there helping out poor moms. Problem is, its very hard to get to both, the NGO and mom. So how can we address this issue seriously? Advertise on TV to a call free number which latter will be channelled to the NGO? I bet corporate people (TV an telephone) waive the fees.

    It’s frustrating actually.

  4. *wouldnt

  5. jamesloh18 said

    i been there .mum did beyond that i may have a good education .she passed away 1986, its been 23 yrs now. i am blessed .this i serve other in the same

  6. flyer168 said

    Barbie,

    The whole nation, its downtrodden rayaat & I share your despair.

    God Almighty “Hears & Feels” the Call, the Pain & the Despair of our “Defenders” & the downtrodden rayaat.

    Malaysia badly needs “Role Model” established Leaders & Politicians of HONOUR with Calibre, Maturity & Tolerance without Fear or Favour on both sides of the Political divide & NOT Political OPPORTUNISTS….

    Further this nation Desperately needs Intelligent, Time Proven Pragmatic Successful modelled, Financial, Economic, Politiical & Social “SOLUTIONS” NOW on BOTH sides of the Political Divide.

    Try to find time to visit Rumah Nur Salam “Women’s Shelter” initiated & managed by Dr Hartini Zainuddin with her selfless sacrifices together with her team of volunteers….

    A very dedicated & noble lady who had spent time in the NY Bronx during her younger studying days to understand the plight of those “Marginalised” groups.

    I have spoken & discussed with her on many issues & managed to get the Inner Wheel Club of KL to assist her with the “voluntary man power” resource on top of the financial, equipment aid.

    Right in the city centre of K.L, the seat of the Malaysian Government & very close to the Malaysian Parliament House – “The Malaysian Bronx”

    There are so many other “Shelters” initiated & managed by those “Noble & Selfless” people together with their “Private Donors & Supporters”.

    If the UMNO/BN & their Women’s & Welfare Division had done their bit Honourably & Meaningfully with our Taxpayer’s & Private Charitable Organisation’s “Generous Donations & Funding”….

    There would NOT have been the NEED for Rumah Nur Salam with the selfless sacrifices of Dr. Dr Hartini Zainuddin & her team of volunteers….

    Cheers.

  7. flyer168 said

    Barbie,

    The whole nation, its downtrodden rayaat & I share your despair.

    God Almighty “Hears & Feels” the Call, the Pain & the Despair of our “Defenders” & the downtrodden rayaat.

    Malaysia badly needs “Role Model” established Leaders & Politicians of HONOUR with Calibre, Maturity & Tolerance without Fear or Favour on both sides of the Political divide & NOT Political OPPORTUNISTS….

    Further this nation Desperately needs Intelligent, Time Proven Pragmatic Successful modelled, Financial, Economic, Politiical & Social “SOLUTIONS” NOW on BOTH sides of the Political Divide.

    Try to find time to visit Rumah Nur Salam “Women’s Shelter” initiated & managed by Dr Hartini Zainuddin with her selfless sacrifices together with her team of volunteers….

    A very dedicated & noble lady who had spent time in the NY Bronx during her younger studying days to understand the plight of those “Marginalised” groups.

    I have spoken & discussed with her on many issues & managed to get the Inner Wheel Club of KL to assist her with the “voluntary man power” resource on top of the financial, equipment aid.

    Yes, she needs many, many “Volunteers”….so how about “Walking our Talk”?

    Right in the city centre of K.L, the seat of the Malaysian Government & very close to the Malaysian Parliament House – “The Malaysian Bronx”

    There are so many other “Shelters” initiated & managed by those “Noble & Selfless” people together with their “Private Donors & Supporters”.

    If the UMNO/BN & their Women’s & Welfare Division had done their bit Honourably & Meaningfully with our Taxpayer’s & Private Charitable Organisation’s “Generous Donations & Funding”….

    There would NOT have been the NEED for Rumah Nur Salam with the selfless sacrifices of Dr. Dr Hartini Zainuddin & her team of volunteers….

    Cheers.

  8. erniejean said

    Besides these petty crimes, i notice that there are more and more kidnappings occuring too.

    Just recently, a boy from Puay Chai 2 was kidnapped right in front of his tuition centre by kidnappers who knew his father had RM1M to spare. The boy was lucky that they released him after the ransom was paid…..other victims were not so lucky…..

    Flyer, nobody trusts the govn’s welfare organisations anymore…..see what BALKIS does with the money meant for the poor………

    It’s basically every man/woman for himself now…….that’s how efficient our government-initiated welfare machinery is……..

  9. flyer168 said

    erniejean,

    Totally agree with you.

    It is “Gutter Politics & Law of the Jungle” in this Bolehland!

    Is one better off making any report with the “Cops, Robbers, thiefs or the Gangsters”….

    They are all “friends” behind the scenes!

    May God Almighty save us all!

  10. karmicpolitics said

    God help Malaysia, i seriously love this country !! and i know many people who do !! no wonder the latest outrage can the idiots currently managing this country stop raping Malaysia, hoi !! bunch of nuts heads youll are !! u are Raping ur own mother , hmmm suhc fuck heads youll are…………dont bother donating money to any such funds collected in media all some planned eye wash ending up to the people who smile so big big on tv and newspaper !! take ur money and go individually and donate and see for yourself help the people that are needy around u start around u everyone have to do that and u can see the difference !! God bless Malaysia and us !!

  11. mauryaII said

    Thanks for highlighting the plight of the poor canteen worker who was forced into prostitution by circumstances. Unlike most sexworkers who prostitute for financial gains, this poor woman had to resort to such an unsavoury method to feed her family.

    This episode however brings one to question the intergrity and moral standing of the prostitutes in the judiciary.

    Prostitution seems to have spread its nasty tentacles even among the learned judges who are supposed to be the guardians of law and order in the country.

    Recent judgements by the exalted officers of the bench has shown a marked indifference to the discharge of their duties without fear. Why do some judges even at federal level resort to prostitution?

    Is is because they do not have the means to support their families like the canteen worker?

    Is it because the income as a judge is not enough to live a comfortable life?

    Is it because the income is not sufficient for all the members of the family to sport an affluent life style?

    Is it because they feel it is alright morally to sell their self-esteem and that of the judiciary for pecuniary gains in the form of promotions?

    Is it that they have no backbone of their own to stand up and be counted as impeccable judges, willing to live up to the high code of ethics, values and moral standards of their office?

    Is it they find it easier to prostitute themselves to please the government of the day even if it is ethically, morally and legally wrong?

    Is it that they are of a tainted blood which is not averse to the low life of prostitution?

    Is it how they want their peers and their immediate family members to perceive them as unscrupulous scums who would not hesitate to prostitute even their own womenfolk?

    What standards are these scoudrels setting for the younger generation of magistrates and judges in the bench?

    Haven’t they any shame?

    The judiciary was corrupted and bought by the mad man, Mamakthir in the late eighties. Since then it has been one long plunge to the nether regions of transparency and accountablity.

    Is it any wonder why the mamak heroworships Robert Mugabe?

  12. mauryaII said

    errata: the nether regions WITHOUT transparency …

  13. türk seks said

    And anyway, with Gerakan’s much much feared and respected Dr. Koh Tsu Koon helming the Ministry in charge of implementing the KPIs, you can bet the entire government machinery (including those UMNO chaps from Penang??) will be whipped into efficiency like no other in no time, perhaps even surpassing Pakatan Rakyat’s impressive governance……..

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